The Fear of Wanderlust


'Wanderlust' is like the boardroom buzzword for Millennials and the dreamers of Generation Y. Three little syllables with the power to enchant and inspire, to evoke the need to travel; to see, to explore. I fit the demographic: I'm 23, out of education and trying to figure out how to write the rest of my life. 
 It seems like the perfect time to catch the itch for wanderlust, right?

..except for the tiny fact that I am totally scared of flying. 

The time I have spent being a passenger in a flying tube is less than the number of fingers I have on my left hand (it's been a monumental three times). For those 14 hours I have spent collecting air miles, I have been scared for a good 840 minutes. Or, more simply put: for the whole time.  

 Getting me to fly somewhere is like getting a child to let go of a lollipop. More often than not, it is not going to happen. Friend's invitations to holidays or suggestions for weekend retreats aren't met with excitement or a giggly whirl of thrill, but with an all-encompassing trepidation and sense of unease. 

Let me reiterate: I am 23, and I am able to travel. I shouldn't have these deep-set fears and worries about dipping over the coast and exploring, should I? How is it that I have already lost the child-like want to discover, to play and navigate without purpose? 

The majority of online content I see is filled to the brim with wanderlust: my Facebook feed is awash with friends who have started their lives again in Australia, New Zealand, or nuzzled deep into South America. And whilst I dozily scroll through their pictures, I'm not met with the same wanderlust-pang as others who comment "I wish I was there". 

 I think I've captured the ability to admire from a distance - I appreciate the gorgeous vistas, waterfalls and overseas cuisine without leaving the ground or consulting my passport. 

I don't know if I am alone with this feeling, or if my body is simply just more cautiously wired than others, but I would love to open a dialogue on this topic, as I feel all I have seen so far is conflicting to my honest opinion - being that I have not been bitten by the wanderlust bug, and I don't think I ever will.

What's your view? Do you long to travel and wander unknown lands, or are you happy to stick to where you are?


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  1. This is a really interesting post and it's refreshing to see someone who isn't afraid to admit it! I love going on holiday but the sense of 'wanderlust' to go travelling or move abroad isn't there for me either! Having said that i'm not afraid of flying so I do love going away, but I always like to come home again. It's so nice to see someone else not be obsessed with wanting to move away though, I've always felt I was in the minority with that.

    Lucy x- Yellowicing

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    1. It is refreshing in response to read someone say that they feel the same! It seems to be a kind of 'cult' Millennial thing to do, and I feel whenever I say I want to stay put, people don't seem to understand (or at least, that is how I perceive it to be). We're not alone after all! :) x

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  2. Lovely post! I definitely want to travel as much as I can. :)

    Heidi || http://heidilaur.blogspot.co.uk

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    1. I do envy that viewpoint - but I will happily flick through someone's photos when they return home instead! x

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  3. You're definitely not alone, I used to be great with flying but got worse with it over the years and the longer I've put it off the worse I am. Now the idea fills me with dread which is silly!

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    1. Totally - I think it is one of those built-up fears that graudally gets worse and worse as time goes by. It's just quite an expensive thing to trial - I mean, I don't like green tea but I always try to give it a go - but a box of that is about £2.99 versus a plane ticket which is a little dearer than that! ;) x

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  4. You are not alone, I undersand you completely. Next year I will be traveling to Italy & Poland . And hopefully by Spring 2017 I will study abroad in London. Once I am over there I want to travel anywhere I can. ♡

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    1. Oh my goodness, that sounds so exciting! I find it fascinating when I hear people wanting to visit my country, but it is just the same as me wanting to see what New York is like. I hope you enjoy them all - London is a really vibrant environment, I adore it there. x

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  5. I'm obsessed with travelling so this post makes me sad, and I'm really sorry you feel that way about flying. As a kid I've been on loads of flights, I still panic a little at the start of the runway but I can't imagine it's what you feel. However, travel doesn't just have to mean getting on a plane. There's incredible places all over the UK you can reach to by car, coach, train...boat if you can handle that (I HATE boats and get incredibly sea sick :( ). I really hope you overcome your fears a little in the future if you feel that's what you want to do, but if not it's definitely not the end of the world. Lovely and brave post so thanks for sharing! To be honest, I have a travel bug and I need to get it into my head that not everybody else does.

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    1. I completely agree - my first job out of university meant that I travelled all over the UK inland, north to south on a daily basis. It was amazing to see so many places and call them my home for the few weeks or so, but I think it has perhaps dampened my want to travel. It became a job; something I associated with stress. I love that everyone's opinion is so varied, it's a great talking point - I really adore coming back to this post to see the next view point! Thank you for taking the time to think about this with me, Yasmin. x

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  6. I am similar to you on the fact that the number of times I've been on an airplane is completely countable by a toddler -- twice. 18 and been on an airplane twice, each time a two hour long flight. It's pathetic really. What differs between you and me, though, is the fact that I ache to travel. I just don't have the funds. I absolutely dislike flying but the feeling of getting out of the suffocating country I live in is more than enough to compensate. Have you talked to someone professional about this phobia (I'll assume it's a phobia)?

    May | THE MAYDEN

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    1. That's so inspiring to hear, May - I can relate that aching feeling to my want to write, I think that is the closest thing I have that is always on my mind. I am not sure that it is a phobia - or how you classify something from a fear into a phobia - but it doesn't affect my day-to-day which is a blessing. I totally understand the suffocating feeling from being in your hometown, I want to spread my wings and move away, but I am happy just tottering around the same land, rather than moving further afield. Thank you for your comments, May. x

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  7. Whilst I do love travelling and exploring close to home, jetting off to other countries has never really been something I'm interested in. It just seems like too much effort right now for a week or two, but who knows, maybe one day I'll want to :)

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    1. Totally agree - I'm much happier inland when I don't need to prepare too much! x

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  8. My first flight ever was awful! I was already quite scared and didn't know what to expect. Right after the take off my head started spinning, and my parents told me I became so pale they couldn't even tell my lips from the rest of my face. =/ Throughout the whole flight I was absolutely terrified, and felt like I was about to pass out. It was a horrible experience, so I feel for you. Having said that, I didn't let that stop me from enjoying travelling abroad. The second time was still horrible, but a little less, because I kind of knew what to expect. Then the third and fourth time it just kept on getting better. I still hate the idea of flying, though, it's like, are humans actually supposed to be so high up in the sky?! I don't think so, lol!

    Kay
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    1. Oh I can completely relate, Kay - I get so lightheaded and breathless on planes, it is a really odd sensation and being belted into a seat whilst it happens just terrifies me! I'm glad you've managed to conquer the fear - I don't think I am close to that yet! x

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  9. I live in georgia but was born in new york. and since im in the fashion industry, going to new york is a must. im leaving tomorrow for the big city and i cant wait. My wanderlust has always been trong. I feel a strong pull toward Sicily and new york. and paris!

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    1. Oh my goodness - I hope the travel has gone well! That sounds so exciting - I wish you all the best! x

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  10. You are definitely not alone in that feeling. I'm generally not too afraid once the plane takes off but I still have panicky feelings about travel and instead enjoy the photos on the blogs of f those I follow or comment on. I live in the NorthEastern U.S.A. and have flown to the West Coast and down to Florida but never out of the country. There are times I'm intrigued and think about travelling though. When it gets cold in the winter I wonder if I should have moved further South or even to the Southern hemisphere.

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    1. I would love to experience some cold climates - I've only ever travelled to places that are warmer than my home (with the UK that's not too hard to find!) But I would love to see the Northern Lights at some point. x

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  11. I love exploring new places but I don't like all the hassle that comes with it.

    ZEKALIN

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  12. If it's just flying you're afraid of then maybe you could go roadtripping or interrailing? I also feel that the longer you're away the more relaxed you become. I've experienced that you don't have to undergo the constant feeling of stress on a longer trip since you have so much time :)

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